Five reasons why (I think) our helpers have stayed on for decades

One of the biggest blessings I’ve ever had is the fact that I never had a hard time looking for household help. This is so important for people like me who have been working all my life. Some people ask me–what’s the “secret” to having helpers who stay with you–through thick and thin; through good times and bad?

I don’t know if this will work for you. But these are the things we have done, which seemed to be the key to why our helpers have stood the test of time.

1. We never nitpicked

When you start getting into too much details of how they should work and examine every nook and cranny of the house every day, it causes them stress and causes you stress, as well.

2. We trusted them with work

We give them the liberty to work the way they see fit, especially if it’s their strength and if I don’t really have any knowledge about a particular task or chore.

3. We provided emotional support

You cannot just give them financial support, you also have to listen to them whenever they have problems. Be the boss that can be approached for advice or a simple yet meaningful conversation. They’re also humans who need to feel that they are not alone (specially during this pandemic).

4. We made them feel that they’re a part of the family

Being a part of a family means showing that they, too, have a place in the home. And I’m not just talking about giving them their own space or own TV. But making sure they are also part of a family celebration, throwing them a birthday lunch or dinner, allowing them leaves during important events like Christmas and Holy Week.

5. We never gave work more than they can chew

We made it a conscious effort to be mindful of the work they did. We let them set the pace for the tasks that need to be completed in a day. We do not hover and tell them of the litany of other things that need to be done- while they are deep in a task already (unless of course, it’s an emergency). In other words, don’t be a slave driver!